Sex: Sufi Svami Sant Sikhi

Sex. If sex were only a mistress, women would remain celibate and function only as child bearing incubators. However, sex is not a beguiling mistress. Sex is a life force with a viable right to exist, albeit within the boundaries of chemical reactions laced with emotions of belonging and ownership.

Yet, when we envelop and dovetail sex with ‘love’ we create a paradox; more so, even, when the love-construct of sex is considered in relation to the Leading Lights of a faith – with the ordinarywallahs, themselves utterly lost as how best to deal with the raging chemical-reaction battle of the sex/love conundrum, coming to sit in summary judgement over those Leading Lights.

Why is it that humans initially idolise and segment Leading Lights from the normally accepted parameters of society, positioning them as beyond such parameters, only to then demonise them for not adhering to the parameters? Why have we put sex and lovemaking out of reach of the very ethos of faith, as being somehow against the teaching at ‘God’s Education Institution’.

If lovemaking and sex did not exist then none of the great Messengers, Prophets and Gurus could not have taken human birth. I have yet to hear from them in person, and I am still waiting to find out if their birth was indeed super-normal and different from the general public. But in the meantime, I have to deal with this matter in a sensible pragmatic way.

Out of all of the Messengers, Prophets and Gurus, only Guru Nanakdevji, originator of the Sikh faith, states in his writing that lovemaking and sex is an acceptable activity to be enjoyed between a couple. He further clarifies that a couple means a life-long (wedded) pair. Nevertheless, ordinary Sikhs and faith-stage-performing Sikhs carry with them a judgmental condemnation of sex and lovemaking, denouncing sexual desire by anyone who is engaged in ‘faith-work’.

If Sikhs can get it so utterly wrong then what hope is there for other faiths in getting it right, faiths whose scriptures aren’t written by their originator but by ordinarywallahs doing their best to capture in writing what they think their originator meant seven hundred years previously.

The most remarkable thing about sex as contained in all the scriptures, besides the Sikh’s Guru Granth Sahibji, is that it is rendered and judged in pretty much the same way as it is in books/writings by educated secular writers with a distaste for sex. You will find very little difference between the leading world scriptures and those secular writers’ distain for sex.

Even the do and don’t of all the other scriptures seem to be human consumer interrelationship laws as seen in practice in the political secular society of law courts.

Thus, faith is denuded of its intricacies, complexities and gracefulness and is borne along by society and its rules. When the two worlds – faith and society – are forced to collide in this way, society’s rules get the upper hand. Thence, confusion as to what a Chen (Zen), Sufi, Svami or Sant can or cannot do in the eyes of the public who seek their advice on demystifying mysticism.

Now, indulge me as I set some formal ground rules about the hierarchy of sex, sexuality and sensuality as observed from those of my background. My opinion is that if the hierarchy is not followed then the whole edifice falls down, collapsing into misunderstanding about sex, sexuality and sensuality.

For all my faults, and I have far more than others, I nevertheless was allowed entry into the higher echelons of advanced awareness. Entry into that environment is encased within a particular responsibility, and only the ‘fieldworker’ elected and entrusted with the duty is allowed formal residency – albeit for a period of sequential events which the fieldworkers oversees like a  project manager. It is from that pedestal and as a part of my fieldwork that I share some of what I am privy to, in the hope that it clarifies certain ambiguities about sex for instance.

As destiny and samskar had detailed – and here is a prime example of the confusion of terminology: initially penned by poets the word ‘karma’ has erroneously displaced ‘samskara’ and modified its import in the process; samskara is the ebb and flow, a reaction to an action; karma is the entire caboodle that governs creation into its four creative states and then the same period of what human awareness considers non-creation; and this one cycle of creation and non-creation is under the governership of one template – a template called karma, within which is another template, specifically samskar.

To return… as destiny and samskar had detailed it, when a High Being entered my life and began his teaching (by what can best be described as osmosis teaching alongside practical discourses), my education about sex evolved.

I was by nature a reasonably gifted dancer. With permission of the High Being, I accompanied older lads who would take me along with them to weekend nightclubs as they knew I would probably be the second best dancer there. A gift which would then allow them access to girls. I disliked the environment and usually found an excuse not to be dragged along. One time, as I was making my excuses, the High Being interceded and indicated that I must accompany the other guys – that there was a lesson I needed to learn and understand.

At some point while we were at the nightclub I saw a large cheering mob gathered, ostensibly hidden away from prying eyes, and I went to investigate. I found a girl worse for wear from drink, being groped and kissed as the boys enjoyed her to their satisfaction. Where they would normally keep to themselves, the English, West Indian and Indian lads – fuelled by drink, hedonism and the free availability of sex – had removed their racial divisions, and one guy after the one took their turn. The girl involved encouraged them all.

The next day the High Being asked me about the incident and my views. I shared my intrigue at how lack of command and control over sexual desire led to deracialised involvement in an activity by a group of boys who wouldn’t otherwise be seen dead together; and by the girl too. So began my education about sex, sexual command and control.

I cannot underline the point enough, that unless a man (and this precludes women) attains full realisation of how to command and control the chemistry involved in sexual desire then advancement into the higher echelons of advanced awareness is impossible. From that pedestal you can indulge in sex almost like an ordinary person, but you do so selectively. In turn, command and control over the chemistry involved in sexual desire cannot be achieved unless the entire package leading to advancement into inner awareness’s refined echelons has been taught and mastered.

At the time, I thought the nightclub incident to be another exercise to sort out the wheat from the chaff among the High Being’s students. This turned out to be partially correct. In my case, and as he had indicated at the outset, my authority in the arena of control would pay for itself as the future unfolded. Those events unfolded when the UK police targeted me, trying to set me up as someone from a high religious status with weak sexual control.

They sent three women my way who would normally never give me a second look, and when each lady cried over the phone about why I did not consider them to be sexually attractive and had refrained from climaxing in their arms, the police who were recording each conversation and incident realised that I was somewhat different from ordinary faith activist.

If I had not mastered sex-desire, whereby I can be engaged in sex but never allow myself to orgasm, the UK police would have ‘outed’ me a long time ago. Thus when I share my views about sex then perhaps I do know a thing or two more about the subject matter than your ordinary ‘experts’.

I need to clarify certain points before I simplify the ongoing message. Advanced Beings, be they female or males, can instigate the process of birth by their sheer thought. But they do need a partner of an equal calibre in order to facilitate the matter. They can also, though more seldomly, instigate a birth for a couple who are desperate for a child.

All of this is conducted under the direct and absolute instructions of Maiea symmetry. She orders and we fulfill that order as per her request. To assume that we can summarily wade in willy-nilly is the height of ignorance; and it is this ignorance that also pens grand commercial novels about wars between the Good and Evil.

No, I cannot emphasis this point enough. Whatever I am, I am due to the permission of the Maiea symmetry. She controls, and nothing functions outside her set parameters. And herein lies the misunderstood teachings. It is from this base I share the following observations – because I am permitted to do so.

Ordinarywallahs make childlike assumptions about how the advanced mystics should act. If they behave within those set perimeters then they are acclaimed as Great Beings. But fall foul of the confused parameters set by secular ignorance, and you are condemned as the Great False Being and are garlanded as a Charlatan.

To gain and cement the title of Charlatan not only must you fall foul of the rigid expectations of sexual activity, but you must also be financially well-off. The oft asked question posed as an observation goes something like this: ‘You are so fortunate(!) that you do not need money…as we living in the world do…’. How precisely do you think spiritual folk and the mystics move around and pays their bills?

If the stupidity of ignorance were set to one side and the Advanced Beings allowed normal life expressions, then you would find that like you they too drink water, eat food and go to the toilet. They have a biological body and a chemically controlled mind-frame. They too want to enjoy whispers of undying love and passion. They too want to behave as normal human beings. The rub is that the unbalanced society in which they have to function does not want them to behave normally. Why not?

Why is it that of two mystics, one who because of some internal chemistry does not engage in sex often and one who for the same reason does, both are sought for consultation but the latter is considered to be of a lower order of mystic knowledge because of his/her greater sexual desire and activity?

Why indeed?

The answer lies is in the idiotic expectations of the ordinarywallahs that those who excel at explaining mysticism must somehow not function as they were created – lest they fall foul of the extraordinary expectations of the ordinarywallahs.

An apple cannot be expected even if covered and encased in the skin of an orange to taste like an orange.

Humans are created out of passion and sex. In that creation they carry the core fundamentals of passion and sex. So when the ordinarywallahs expect the mystics to be supernormal, they the ordinarywallahs have to ask themselves whether the mystic was created by supernormal beings out of thin air, and if not, then they need to expect that High Being to behave within normal human parameters.

If the erroneous pedestal were not created and these ordinary people with ordinary chemistry flowing in their veins were treated as normal people, then the majority of sex abuses by the ‘clergy’ of the Christian faith would not have existed in the numbers that they do.

My sincerest hope is that just because someone has the capacity to demystify mysticism it does not automatically mean that that person does not eat food, drink water and refrain from going to the toilet. That is utter nonsense. Such drivel emanates from people whose expectations are wound up in a fantasy of God as being above sexual and financial intrigue, and who then apply this fantasy to the bio-frame of the individual human being to whom they have gone seeking the demystification of mysticism.

Here I must make another point clear. The foot soldiers of faith, e.g., the clergy within Christianity, have zero ability to demystify mysticism. The ability and responsibility for this resides only at the very top most position of advanced awareness. And these Beings seldom interact with the general public.

So, you need to get real guys.

Another absurdity of the ordinarywallahs is to pray to God – this Ultimate Being who is considered and even demanded to be above sexual and financial intrigue and beyond interracial feuding – to find them their perfect sexual-life partner, fill their bank account to brimming and instigate interethnic peace at the wave of a celestial wand.

It’s like visiting a back street tailor and asking him to fix a small medical problem… say, sewing the hole in your heart!

Get real guys and smell the coffee. Get out of cloud-cuckoo land. Deal with reality, and stop placing Advanced Beings and Mysticism Demystifiers on a pedestal that prevents them from partaking of ‘real’ life – they can do both, you know. They are no less advanced because you ordinarywallahs castigate certain behaviours as sinful – whatever that means.

Please take responsibility for your own behaviour in their company and take full responsibility for your children’s welfare, and remember first and foremost to treat all religious activists as human beings with human feelings, desires and longings.

For they are human first and demystifiers of mysticism second.

Sants, Svamis, Sufis

Everybody it seems is an expert on the boundaries that a leading Dharmic light must confine him- or herself to – but these opinionwalas and their conjectures aren’t ‘expert’ at all, they’re mostly emotion-led attitudes that acquire acceptance by sheer force of everyone else’s emotional musings on what Dharmic responsibility should look like. It is a little known fact that Dharmic hierarchy is very strict and punishes those who transgress or abuse the system.

Opinionwallahs wouldn’t for one minute judge the teachers, lecturers and professors who teach guide, mould and instruct our children. The social condemners know nothing of the sexual orientation, lifestyle, politics, marital status, or position in the education system of these educators. So, why attack the leading Dharmic light who provides succour and teaching to the average person – a person who manages life and its obstacles sufficiently well for themselves yet who seeks some additional comfort?

Why not leave seekers and their preferred Dharmic light alone – leave them to their isolated, self sustaining group communion, leave them to develop inner awakening at their own pace.

We are, after all, not talking of groups involved in mass intoxication or criminal activity.

Who among us has card-carrying authorisation to act as the Creator’s agent on earth? Not one of us. Yet up rises a mass emotional outcry, declaiming the hypnotic, cultish, subjugating hold that a mesmerising leading Dharmic light has over his or her group. The experience is never tested or studied; it is simply challenged, and blame apportioned to the shepherd. Yet the sheep are implicated in a contract of protection by the shepherd – and it is precisely this vital, valuable aspect underpinning the entire relationship that judgmental opinionwallahs fail to appreciate.

In education, each teacher is different from the next. Their commonality is their remit to impart information to their students for digestion, consideration and improvement. Dharmic leading lights play a similar role. Think back to your schooldays…you didn’t like or get on with all your teachers, but this did not stop them from being teachers, from fulfilling their remit as teachers.

Dharmic leading lights ought to be considered in the same vein. But, and the difference is significant here, whereas teachers learn and train to impart information and knowledge about specific subject-matters, Dharmic leading lights’ engagement is samskaric and dovetails with their previous births. Their disciples and followers are the schoolchildren of the classroom.

So the key learning here, and my suggestion, is that everybody ought to observe, study and learn before articulating disapproval – become the expert you seek to critique – and if a ‘student’ seeks your assistance then support them without attacking and vilifying their Dharmic leading light. Let the secular justice system take that individual to task if so needed. You should remain opinionless in the matter.

A Sikh does not judge or condemn based on emotion.

Khalsa negotiates a given problem without casting blame, while protecting the weak and the victim of injustice, doing so at personal cost to themselves if need be.

Khalsa’s path is protection of others through compassion for all.